What to Say to a Girl in the Club
I'm going to a rock gig in a small club in London next week, I'd like to muster up the courage to talk to a girl sometime during/before/after as I'm rather single at the moment and I've never tried doing it this way before.
I'm not using the bump and grind method, I'll want to be doing this between sets when the music is quiet and they're sipping on their drinks waiting for the next act to come on.
So, I'd like to know...:
a) Tips on psyching myself up as I'm probably going to be nervous as hell 
b) I've approached a girl (or some girls), they've turned around and I'm standing there. What do I say?
c) Ideas on some initial topics to cover as I'm probably going to have to control the conversation initially? There's multiple bands playing, so one of my questions will no doubt be along the lines of "Are you here to see a particular band?"
d) Things I should consciously avoid doing which I might do naturally out of nervousness?
e) How long should I give it before I leave them alone? Should I conclude by giving them a way of contacting me if I'm still interested? (Facebook, or phone number for example?)
f) So, they haven't told me to go away, but they're not very talkative. Do I take it as in indication of shyness or lack of interest?
g) Final question...I've clearly been rejected, but they're not the only girls who caught my eye. Is it unclassy to move onto someone else?
Never done any of this before, so er...advice is welcome. Thanks 
a) have a drink or two...**** it get crazy drunk
b) hey baby... 
c) whats your favourite position?
d) avoid going for the ugly ones to build up your confidence...
e) the general rule is no longer then 4 mins and 42 seconds.... take print outs of your display pic and name on fb...hand em out....and tell em to find you...
f) always an indication of shyness...if they didn't like you they would have slapped you by now
g) follows these steps and you wont need to ask this question....
(Original post by catjaum)
a) have a drink or two...**** it get crazy drunk
b) hey baby...
c) whats your favourite position?
d) avoid going for the ugly ones to build up your confidence...
e) the general rule is no longer then 4 mins and 42 seconds.... take print outs of your display pic and name on fb...hand em out....and tell em to find you...
f) always an indication of shyness...if they didn't like you they would have slapped you by now
g) follows these steps and you wont need to ask this question....
Isn't that rather desperate and confrontational?
(Original post by Foo.mp3)
Catch her eye from across the room a couple of times, smile, see if she smiles back, and then try the following either from where you are, or when you see her on the dancefloor:
Give her a George Cloony grin and the 'come here' finger curl (without taking your eyes off her) 
Some girls will come over, some will be too shy but you'll see them react positively, if not in compliance - which provides you with added heat/intensity when you go over and deliver your cheeky/funny in/ice breaker e.g. "either you're gay or someone's superglued your shoes to the floor " or "apparently I'm losing my touch 
"
Others will either give you a look that says "ok, you're a freak" or just look away - these girls need to be filtered out at some point anyway so no biggie 
Now that's more like it...
There's no need to be nervous. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. You also don't have to speak or see any of these girls you talk to ever again if it doesn't go well.
My advice is, if you like the look of a girl, just go up to her and say something to her. Pay her a compliment but not something generic, it has to be genuine and unique to her that you've noticed. Example 'wow, I love your laugh' (if you've seen her laugh of course), and then walk off. Be there one minute and gone the next. She will, hopefully, come looking for you to speak to you.
By doing this and walking off you're giving her a compliment and not asking for anything in return. Don't offer to buy her a drink or anything like that, there's no guarantee of her company or time. Also I would avoid alcohol if you can. Being drunk is not attractive.
A male friend of mine has a tactic for approaching girls in clubs, which is basically going up to a girl with his phone/camera and asking her if she'll take a picture of him and his friends. Girls are happy to do this, and then he'll be like 'thanks, lets get a picture of us' and put his arm around the girl and take a picture of them. Most girls are fine with this cos most people don't mind having their picture taken with randomers on nights out when they are drunk. And then he'll just start talking to her, dunno about what though as I don't stand around listening to his conversations. But as you're going alone dunno if you'd be able to do this, unless you ask her to take a picture of you with one of the bands (if they are a well known band).
Your suggestion of asking about the bands sounds fine, if there's a good atmosphere at the gig most people will be friendly and happy to chat from my own personal experience.
Don't set a time limit for how long you talk to them, if they don't seem very receptive just be like 'nice meeting you' and move on, if they seem happy to talk to you chat for a while but yeah don't stay there all night unless you obviously hit it off with a girl.
If an obvious opportunity to give/take contact details arises then take it, or if there's another gig you know is coming up ask if they're going and take it from there.
If you don't get any contact details but you meet friendly people, you might just bump into them at a future gig and can talk to them again then.
I appreciate (most of) the advice given so far, but it's a rock gig in a small venue that sells alcohol rather than being an out and out boozy nightclub, so maintaining an element of class and coolness is a bit more important and none of us are likely to be THAT drunk.
Q: "Do you know how much a polar bear weighs?"
"What?", "Dont know", "*insert guess*" etc...
A: "Its enough to break the ice "
Go on, ya know you want to do it Then just start a conversation on the music being played or anything else that might be happening at the time
Dont use pickup lines unless you are so drunk and cant be arsed.
I do that sometimes and its a laugh.
No, I won't be using pickup lines...Just need a good way of introducing myself and then something to start off a conversation. It needs to have some sort of point/reason
(Original post by Wilfred Little)
There's no need to be nervous. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. You also don't have to speak or see any of these girls you talk to ever again if it doesn't go well.
My advice is, if you like the look of a girl, just go up to her and say something to her. Pay her a compliment but not something generic, it has to be genuine and unique to her that you've noticed. Example 'wow, I love your laugh' (if you've seen her laugh of course), and then walk off. Be there one minute and gone the next. She will, hopefully, come looking for you to speak to you.
By doing this and walking off you're giving her a compliment and not asking for anything in return. Don't offer to buy her a drink or anything like that, there's no guarantee of her company or time. Also I would avoid alcohol if you can. Being drunk is not attractive.
does that work much for ye?
Personally I pretend my phone is out of battery... then usually while waiting at a bar I can identify a girl alone waiting for a drink; approach, and just ask her the time... then say "hi, I'm leonardo dicaprio (well... actually say your name)", then just sway into normal converstation... if she's nice and engaged in convo maybe buy her a drink .
Maybe walk back to her friends and say hi (then they will know your a nice person/ worthy of approval)... but for god sake don't tag around after all of them, if you went and got your friends it would be ok but you don't want to be the guy that won't leave 
Hope this helped a little. If not go **** urself
As a girl who quite often goes to gigs alone I think I can help you a bit.
1) preferably look for a girl who's alone there, too. If you don't find one - go for larger groups since a girl would never leave her gf alone.
2) Wait either till the middle of the gig or start off at the beginning. Talk about how excited you are to see the band and (if it's the middle) how great the gig is. Conversation will flow then.
Hope you're having fun! And don't forget to find out where you can go for some drinks afterwards with her. Don't stay in the location. It usually gets uncomfortable but a nice bar very near the venue will be great.
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(Original post by catjaum)
a) have a drink or two...**** it get crazy drunk
b) hey baby...
c) whats your favourite position?
d) avoid going for the ugly ones to build up your confidence...
e) the general rule is no longer then 4 mins and 42 seconds.... take print outs of your display pic and name on fb...hand em out....and tell em to find you...
f) always an indication of shyness...if they didn't like you they would have slapped you by now
g) follows these steps and you wont need to ask this question....
4mins 42 seconds! That's very precise, where did you read that? I agree though haha not more than 5 mins
How'd it go? Any advice you learnt since?
What to Say to a Girl in the Club
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